5 Easy Steps To An AMAZING
Love Life!


 Is your love life what you want it to be?couple-playing-on-beach

 Are you close and connected with your  partner?

 Do you sometimes find yourself longing for  some affection finding nothing there?

 Whether your love life is amazing and you want to  make it better - or

 you would love for it to be something more, this article is for you.  In Fact - 

We all deserve, a strong and active love life

That is why we have put together these 5 easily applied steps to getting closer than ever before to your partner. 
and the FREE downloads at the bottom of this page. 


10waysBetterSex coverSomething that we have learned from our years of coaching couples, and from client reports, is this . . .

Getting Back To Bed CAN BE TOUGH! 

No, it’s not hard to "Do It" (the act) . . . it’s just hard to do it - it can be really tough to actually come together and make it happen. 

School, work, kids, chores, family needs, and so many other distractions can so quickly begin getting in the way after the marriage vows are made. 

It seems the “I DO” becomes “I’d love to – tomorrow, at naptime, maybe lunch?”


 Before you know it, the newlywed “two-a-day” has become “two-a-month” (or less!), and then - only when the clouds all  align in the shape of pillows.

 Here is where having a great love life starts becoming work.  When the stress and distancing of life, starts to get in the way,  you may have to resort to some business tactics to make it happen. 

 It can happen to anyone, at any time. 

 First, let us introduce ourselves. We are Brett and Gina Judd.  Creators of Marriages Worth Millions and Fortunes and  Families.  We have been happily married to each other for the past 26 years, and are both licensed therapists, who have  coached many couples to overcoming the “great intimacy divide.” 

 We have had 4 children and several foster kids in our home, and on a few occasions experienced an awkward silence after  an older child casually observed, “you guys have a noisy bed.”  So, yeah . . . we know a little about family, relationships,  "intimacy", and how to make them fantastic.

 Like we said above, sometimes trying to get together is like penciling in a meeting. For example, very early in our  marriage, we ran headlong into an unintended “sex snafu” and resulting relationship tension it caused.  Here is the story, as  told by Gina:

“Just a few weeks into our marriage, I added ‘time with Brett’ (code for "intimacy") to my daily calendar.  This time was something I really looked forward to and I wanted to be sure there was plenty of time for it and that it didn’t get crowded out by the day’s demands.  I showed it to Brett, thinking he would be so happy that I was ensuring that our physical time was a priority, that it would communicate to him how important he and our time together was to me. 

Unfortunately, Brett did not react at all like I thought he would.  He was instantly hurt, and felt as though I had marginalized him—and our intimate life—to something as trivial as a “daily do list.”  He became upset and very, very cold to me.  I was shocked.  What I thought would really please him actually turned him off completely.  It was a silent, tense, and very painful day—for both of us, and it took some time for us to be able to work it out without getting upset all over again.”

 We share this to help you understand that even the best intentions can sometimes backfire into deep separation. With  something as sensitive and meaning-bound as your physical pleasure, it is so easy to accidentally misstep. 

 There are so many ways to turn up the heat in a passionate relationship. 

 We want to give you 5 Easy Steps to creating an AMAZING love life, and we aren't just talking about sex here.  

 Step 1.  It is time we did what Salt 'n Pepper told us to in the '90's -
     "Lets Talk About Sex Baby."

 Thats right - talk about it. What you like, what you would love to do, what he does that really makes you tingle. 

 There was an joke back in high school that went, "those who talk about it, don't get it."

 Well, that might be true in teenage angst, but in an adult committed relationship - the opposite is actually true!

 Talk About IT!  Often, and openly.

 Too many couples do not talk about their physical relationship and many are unable to openly say the word - sex.  Being  comfortable with the discussion helps you be more comfortable with the act. The more direct you are in your  communication, the less confusion there will be between you.

 Has this ever happened to you?  You say to your spouse, "I'd love to 'fool around' with you tonight." only find out they  planned a night of miniture golf, batting cages, and maybe a movie?  It is very important that if you are going to use code,  or innuendo, that they know what code your are using. 

 We have some friends who used to "fold clothes" when their kids were young.  We "took naps".  But that was code to the  kids.  Our friends, and us, knew exactly what we meant.

 Equally important is the ability to openly and freely talk about the act, and say the right words without  embarrassment. There is a very distinct difference between intimacy and sex.  While sex might be intimate, it is not the  same in reverse.  

 The same holds true for body parts, and acts.  If you want to be that close to each other, you we can be that  open with each other!

 Step 2. Practice!

 Yep, practice does make perfect.  And good practice includes a little coaching.  And, good coaching requires us  to talk about IT!

 While it can be argued that this is so natural that it really isn't possible to get it wrong, the reality, it can go  VERY wrong and the more we practice, the better we get.  So, here are a few things that you can practice,

 1. Touch.  How, where, how much, how hard, etc.  Touch is so powerful that it can excite even when you are not in bed.  Learning how your partner likes to be touched is a great why to learn how to be affectionate to them.

 2. Tone. How many times have we heard, it is not what you say, but how you say it.  Practicing good verbal tone while you  are "being intimate" is a great way to learn how to be affectionate with each other when you aren't. 

 3. Style.  Does it ever just get stale?  Sometimes it is necessary to shake it up a bit.  Talk about what you would like to try,  and then practice it.  You won't likely get it right the first time, so don't give up.

 Step 3. Ask!

 Not in the "No, means NO!" get consent kind of way, but we have worked with numerous couples who were not as active  as they wanted to be simply because they had no clue the other one want to be.  Maybe you know what we are talking  about.

 It's late, you roll into be and lean over and start to caress his back.  He groans and sighs and then almost instantly starts to  snore.  It happens all the time and to nearly every couple.  This is where we go back to step one - talk about it.  Instead of  being covertly affectionate hoping that the cuddle will turn into something more - just ask for it!

 Step 4. Be open and vulnerable with each other.  

 Unfortunately, a sizzling love life is just not the case for many.

 “[I] feel abnormal for wanting more [CLOSENESS]*.”

 “When my attempts to excite him with lingerie and high heels failed, I felt ugly and worthless.”

 “It’s a horrible place to be when your partner doesn’t want to have anything to do with you [in the bedroom] and when  you do end up sleeping together, it seems like more of a chore on their end just to shut you up.”

 The above statements - from real women who long to share physical intimacy with their spouse - barely scratch the surface  of the tongue-tied torment many wives bear alone.  And it's not just the women who suffer.

 If you’ve ever felt this way, you are not alone. At one point many of us have experienced this.  Even if your love life is  amazing.

 * In this post we have changed sex and sexual to various euphemisms.  We strongly encourage couples to drop the  euphemisms and just say it like you mean it when it comes to the "intimate" relationship.

 Although society stereotypes paint a strong physical drive as a “male issue”, many intimacy-starved women silently  suffocate beneath unbearable pain, unable to share the circumstances of their own very private hell. 

 Maybe you know it too . . .

 You want to have "intimacy" with your husband (or wife) — you practically THROW yourself at him. 
 You beg him to make love with you!  

 And yet, he is indifferent, uninterested, completely un-aroused by you.

 The pain spirals, spinning you into despair, causing you to ask in anguish,

  • “Why doesn’t he desire me?”
  • “What’s wrong with me?”
  • “What’s wrong with him?”
  • “What is wrong with our marriage?”

 If you find yourself sinking beneath these devastating doubts and fears, take courage. 

 First of all – You Are Not Alone! This deep drive to connect, to feel, and to enjoy your husband physically is actually a  hard-wired core need for humans, encoded in both genders as a survival instinct through thousands of years of evolution. 

 That’s why it hurts so much when one is denied it. 

 That is also why it can wreak so much havoc between you and your lover as you try to solve the problem.  But the good  news is that together, you can break out of it.

 With a strong understanding of the three types of intimate relationships and what states of mind and emotion drive them,  you and your lover can learn to:

  • reverse the negative patterns that are dominating your "intimate" life, and
  • improve true intimacy that can strengthen your bond forever.


 But the delicate skill of coming back together after a painful disconnection of any kind is found in the ability to  successfully answer the three core questions guaranteed to making your marriage amazing for a lifetime. 

 Evolution has encoded these questions into our human consciousness, and

Every. Single. Human. On. The. Planet

  - seeks constant reassurance to them, especially when we are stressed—it’s part of our DNA.  Here they are:

  1. Are you “A”ccessible: when I need you, can I actually reach you?)
  2. Are you “R”esponsive: when you see my need, do you come to me?
  3. Are you “E”ngaged in me? Am I on your radar (or planner)?

 When Gina added Brett to her calendar, she was trying to show that she was “E”ngaged in him and responsive to their  mutual needs.  Unfortunately, he did not “R”espond as she hoped, and he became less than “A”ccessible until they talked  and she remained responsive to him.  It is a delicate dance of being so “E”ngaged that you are Responsive at the same time  as being Accessible.

 This can be hard.  It can take tons of practice together, almost like learning to dance. One of the key things taught at  Fortunes and Families is how to “dance” this “tango” of human bonding.  When done successfully, it keeps men from  going into the “man-cave” or “nothing box,” and it protects women from feeling alone and unloved and reacting in blaming  or critical anger.

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 Two of our greatest tools for  helping couples get started on the  path to sexual and relational healing  (because the two are inseparably  connected) are . . . 

 1 - Talk Your Way To Better Sex!  TONIGHT!

 Sometimes it's not the easiest thing to  discuss, but just like the old song  says, "Let's Talk About Sex".

 In this conversation starter, we coach  you through 10 conversations that  can ignite the sexual fires and deepen  the awareness you and your partner  have about what they need, and what  they long for.  

 2 - Three Kinds of Sex

 This incredible essay by relationship expert Dr. Due Johnson, outlines the 3 distinct types of sexual relationships and why  we need and desire them.  The third - synchrony - is the full coming together emotionally and physically.  Couples who  practice the conversations above, often reach synchrony faster and more often. 


 Because we are passionate about strengthening families by sharing proven strategies for peace and prosperity, there is no  catch, no charge, no trick.  Take them, use them, and get back to the bedroom, where the two of you belong! 

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